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Book Review: Appetites

Posted on: March 26, 2010

Appetites: On the Search for True Nourishment by Geneen Roth, Dutton Books, 1996.

This post feels like an act of courage.

I’ve never talked or written openly about my struggles with eating. I don’t usually read self-help books, or anything that could be found on those shelves in the bookstore. I ardently refuse to consider any materials on dieting, and I loathe the culture of thinness that prizes an impossibly unhealthy body type for women.

But the truth is that I don’t have a good relationship with food, and I am trying to work on that relationship, for the sake of my physical and mental health. And this book doesn’t talk about how to get thin, or why we should want to eat healthy food, or an eight-step program to a better you, or BMI or exercise or clothing size or body image or even addiction. If it had, I probably would not have continued reading it.

This book talks about exactly what I am working on—a relationship with food, which is about a relationship with ourselves and with our bodies. Geneen Roth chronicles her own difficult relationship with food in a voice that is so raw and honest that it almost feels like you are reading someone’s well-written personal journal. Her brokenness and craziness and twisted thinking and self-doubt are right there, exposed to the light and thoughtfully captured in language. But so are the words of forgiveness and healing and rationality and sympathy and advocacy. They are right next to each other—brokenness paired with healing, good thinking intertwined with continued bad choices, reasonable perspective mingled with crazy old tapes full of negative self-talk.

Which is exactly my experience of my relationship with food. Ah, companionship! (Ironically, a word derived from sharing food—com, with; pan, bread; companion, one you break bread with.)

Roth’s raw honesty and good writing are the great gifts of this book. She captures my experience and that of so many other women, and somehow just seeing your thoughts and feelings reflected on the page, organized and articulated, helps sort through them and even let go of some of them.

The other great gift is Roth’s own brokenness. For me, my relationship with food cycles through good and bad. I keep thinking I have found healing, only to end up right back where I started in a bad place. Roth, in spite of having written bestselling books and held thousands of seminars, does the same thing. And she doesn’t just say, “Now, I still struggle sometimes,” and cover it over with slick presentations of the way forward—she takes us right with her to the crazy place that still lives on in spite of books, seminars and success.

There were particular moments of crazy—and accompanying insights of healing—that especially touched me, but I feel vulnerable enough already without exposing my particular crazies. I wish I could be as honest as Roth is. Daylight in itself is healing. But for now, I will continue my search for true nourishment with the gift of companionship, and a reminder that healing in relationships is not a once-and-for-all, one-and-done experience. Just like healing in relationships with people, finding healing in my relationship with food is an ongoing journey, fraught with obstacles and setbacks, yet still a journey well worth taking.

One small, crazy step at a time.

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3 Responses to "Book Review: Appetites"

Your writing has truly touched and moved me. Thank you for writing these beautiful words! Food is the direct connection between the physical and the spiritual, between what we put in our mouths and what we feel in our hearts. God is not just in the details. God is also in the muffins, the fried sweet potatoes, and the tomato vegetable soup. God is on our plates. I hope you will forgive what might look self-serving, but I mean this to be helpful and it comes from the bottom of my heart. I hope you will have a chance to read my new book called Women Food and God, which is my most complete work yet. The message is of love and healing. I hope it helps you on your journey.

Geneen Roth
P.S. Oh, and I would love to stay connected with you via Facebook if you’re interested.

I am so honored by your words, and your visit to my little corner of cyberspace. What a surprise! Thank you for your work, your honesty, and for not being insulted that I repeatedly called you crazy, even if I said that’s one of the things I loved best about your book. I look forward to reading Women Food and God–and posting a reflection on that one too!

Jennifer,

I am honored by your honesty in this post. I know many women who struggle as you do and have struggled in these same ways myself and continue to do so. Thank you for the book recommendation and for sharing your light.

Tisha

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